Being good at one thing doesn’t make you good at everything — Men are overconfident most of the time. Successful men tend to suffer from overconfidence at rates higher than other men. The result is they have an overwhelming sense of their own ability to do everything. And that’s when they fall on their faces. This plagues most men. If Adam Levine…

You do! — Hiring an affair consultant may be one of the best decisions you ever make if you’re looking for a little something on the side and want it to go smoothly. And who is better than a cheater like me with years of researched-backed experience to help you find your match…

Thinking of having an affair? Start here — Following a massive security fuckup early in my cheating life, I started researching my book, How to Cheat: Field Notes from an Adulteress. I had no idea what I was doing other than knowing my goal was to have sex. Having sex is easy for a woman, so it wasn’t…

This is more about TJC than me — you’ll never know me — What you need to know first and foremost is I’m a writer who cheats and not a cheater who writes. I write other things that are mostly boring, analytical, and bureaucratic. I am paid handsomely for that and the policy advice I provide to senior government decision makers. …

It went how you’d expect — It’s not really a 14-minute read. It is very skimmable once you get to the convo that’s just down there ⬇︎. And I get very dirty at one point, so don’t skip that! But first, some background I was messaging for an older client who asked me to send a message to a lady…

Screening out risks to my mind, marriage, and soul — Married dating can be tricky because if anything goes sideways, you might not get help with it and keep your primary relationship. And that’s the aim, right? What’s the point of all the secrecy if you don’t care about your marriage? My screening process begins with the opening message. The…

Some people weren’t built for monogamy — Trigger Warning — This article discusses how someone ended up in a good relationship. Some readers may find that unsettling. The older I get, I wonder if I started cheating because I wasn’t getting my needs met (I wasn’t) or if I’m not really a monogamist at heart and just…

My cheating chatbot chat — I finally got on the OpenAI’s GPT-3 and had a chat today, to test it out. I wanted to know if AI could help me write messages to women on Ashley Madison. …

What’s in a handle — I’ve been working with clients on Ashley Madison (AM) and connecting them with potential affair partners. My job is to open the door and get the convo going. I do that by building them a good profile first before going to messages. One client asked me if she’d really read…