Being good at one thing doesn’t make you good at everything — Men are overconfident most of the time. Successful men tend to suffer from overconfidence at rates higher than other men. The result is they have an overwhelming sense of their own ability to do everything. And that’s when they fall on their faces. This plagues most men. If Adam Levine…

You do! — Hiring an affair consultant may be one of the best decisions you ever make if you’re looking for a little something on the side and want it to go smoothly. And who is better than a cheater like me with years of researched-backed experience to help you find your match…

Thinking of having an affair? Start here — Following a massive security fuckup early in my cheating life, I started researching my book, How to Cheat: Field Notes from an Adulteress. I had no idea what I was doing other than knowing my goal was to have sex. Having sex is easy for a woman, so it wasn’t…

This is more about TJC than me — you’ll never know me — What you need to know first and foremost is I’m a writer who cheats and not a cheater who writes. I write other things that are mostly boring, analytical, and bureaucratic. I am paid handsomely for that and the policy advice I provide to senior government decision makers. …

Stories from cheaters who’ve lasted over two years — My lover and I celebrated the 5th Anniversary of our affair at the beginning of September. We connected on Ashley Madison a week or so after I joined up. I was at a low point that summer, but being on AM and having so many men interested in me picked…

Juggling two relationships isn’t easy — PSA — Hey, y’all! Medium doesn’t let anyone have three free stories anymore. It’s all or nothing now. My problem is that I like to share my stories with my email list weekly. While I’d love for them to all be on Medium, they aren’t. Starting today, I will give…

Mixed emotions & tough choices after being caught — What happens after I get caught or reveal my cheating? This is a real-life scenario I often think about. Other-side-of-the-coin, or Red Team, thinking is a good way to test your logic. As I’ve said before, if my husband could cheat, I wouldn’t have, but I might just be lying…

An email to a client you should read — I don’t like to think of myself as a “tell it like it is” sort of lady, but I don’t like to beat around the bush either. In working with a new client I was sensing some scepticism with my approach, and I get it. When you spend money on…

Exploring the do-over list with cheaters — As my fifth anniversary of cheating approaches, I wonder where I’d be if I hadn’t cheated. I know I’d be miserable and depressed and filled with the self-loathing that consumed me before I stepped out. I say that because I don’t think anything would have gotten better. Would I have…