My Books & Their Reviews

The How to Cheat Series

I wrote the book on Adultery! Well, a book on it. And then I wrote another one and made it a series!

My latest — Adultery Profile Tips for Men

Adultery Profile Tips for Men is about about exactly that. Things to consider when writing your adultery profile. When I say consider, what I’ve provided is a perspective from the female reader point of view. Having that will let you see what works and more importantly, what doesn’t.

Reviews thus far

“Learned a new term! Tinmanning.”

— Reader

“I’m the Australian guy who paid for your book and reviewed it, just before you made it free. I’d do it again, it’s worth every cent…Besides which, I like the way you think.”

— A Busboy

How to Cheat: Field Notes from an Adulteress

Here’s the Amazon link for both the ebook and paperback.

If you join my email list ☞ HERE ☜ you can get a free pdf copy!

This explains why I wrote the book—

What the readers are saying

If you didn’t notice at the link above, it has received ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ on Amazon. So what if only two readers reviewed it and one gave three and the other with five stars? It’s still four stars isn’t it? Others have said this —

“…what I found the most compelling about your book was the OPSEC material.”

— A Brokenhearted Husband

“I thought that the book may have some guidance on discretion (!) and it does, in spades.”

— Archie Pelago

“Honest feedback — I guess my expectations were that it would be less of a “how-to” manual, and more of a “benefit of”, along with racy stories.”

— Gentleman Reviewer

From my point of view the best way to avoid being caught is to act like a Cold War spy and never raise suspicion. Not everyone will find it interesting, but it will save your ass — guaranteed!*

*this guarantee is not a guarantee

I discuss one of the reviews I’ve received here as well as how taking my own advice saved my ass once —

Here’s another —

If you’re going to buy a ‘how-to’ book on having an affair, you’d want it to be written by a security analyst, and preferably one who understands what it is to work in a hostile environment. That’s how this book reads. It’s a stark reminder that in affair-land every move could be your last (metaphorically, hopefully) and that Prior Planning Prevents Piss Poor Performance.

No judgement on whether having an affair is, on balance, a good idea – everyone will have to work that one out for themselves.

I bought the book, not because I’m having an affair, but because my partner and I have sex with other people and we’d rather be discrete about it. I thought that the book may have some guidance on discretion (!) and it does, in spades.

If you want to control who knows what you’re up to, whatever that might be, buy this book, on a password protected kindle (etc etc).


Archie Pelago

This one is from a man I’ve been exchanging emails with regarding his wife’s affair. He’s not a cheater himself, but he’s trying to understand her and what’s gone on. He bought my book and another I recommended and he spoke about them here —

Interestingly enough (I hope) is that what I found the most compelling about your book was the OPSEC material. My brain is wired for problem solving, as it seems yours may be too, and I know that aspect of me is why I chose the career I did. Aside from seeking some insight into my wife’s cheating, I’m interested in your book and your writing because of the analysis that you bring to the topic. As someone who has come to understand the other side of a dead bedroom and who places value on the ideal of preserving the primary relationship, I see the value of your book. That some of what you wrote was covered off in Secret Lives in no way diminishes the hard work and value of the research you engaged in to assist yourself and then others with that objective.

That you have emphasized that objective throughout is how I came to understand the other side of cheating. Not in the sense that I support or condone it, but that I can appreciate now that it is not as clear cut an issue as we are generally taught to think of it as being. I have also come to appreciate the influence and danger that opening up a marriage to include others in your sex life can lead to without the couple having talked through the potential pitfalls. I can understand the jealousy that your AP felt when you went out without him, and the desire that you both have for sharing those types of experiences together with other like-minded couples. Being security minded left you both open to having that kind of a conversation at or near the outset of your relationship.

— A Brokenhearted Husband

© Teresa J. Conway, 2021

Wife, mother, HR Magician, and mature adulteress. Edits for The Scarlett Letter, PSIHY, and Sexpressions. Wrote How to Cheat — Field Notes from an Adulteress.

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