What you need to know first and foremost is I’m a writer who cheats and not a cheater who writes. I write other things that are mostly boring, analytical, and bureaucratic. I am paid handsomely for that and the policy advice I provide to senior government decision makers. Sorry, but no, I’m not a lawyer, I’m smarter than that.

Teresa (my actual first name) J. Conway was born in an airport in the summer of 2018 while I was waiting to switch planes two days after I realized I was completely alone in the world. TJC wouldn’t find her legs…

This is the third and final installment on virtual affairs, so we get down to the question most people probably have — where do you go to find an online lover? Getting off virtually is sexy and safe, and if you have guilt issues, it’s probably the best way to remain morally intact.

While I’m not much into video sex dates, I can’t say my lover, and I haven’t tried one…or two. However, a certain amount of hotness is involved in knowing your body has made another person grab their cock and pump it until it explodes. And yes, women…

In this second installment of my interview with an online cheater, we explore virtual affairs in more detail. We look at who’s out there; what sorts hotness one can get up to; and find out if online sex can evolve.

For many, an online affair might be the connection people are looking for to safely exploit their sexual fantasies in an virtual environment without physically cheating.

What’s the difference between virtual and physical cheating?

I think that’s up to the cheater and their spouse. My guess is not many spouses would be happy to know she was tossing off with…

Some people live their whole lives in their primary relationship hating the sex they have with their partner. I never hated the sex with my partner, but I sure missed it all those years. So, when I stepped out, I told myself I wouldn’t regret the sex. There was no way I was going to risk it all for something that wasn’t even worth doing.

The Cheater & His Dilemma

Looking for some advice regarding my current AP. My current AP and I have been together for five months online before meeting for the first time 3 months ago. Things online were amazing — the…

I don’t know anything about virtual affairs.

Sure, I’ve fingered myself over FaceTime to let my affair partner watch me orgasm, but we’ve only done it a couple of times. I’m just not into it because I’d rather have the sex. I can’t imagine getting into it, so it’s an area I’ve stayed away from discussing because it’s not my thing.

Michael slipped into my DMs not long ago after I replied to a comment on a Tweet. I’m pretty much game for any discussion in the comments or DM because I never know where it will go. As usual…

When boys become men, there’s an exciting change in them. They are no longer those sweet little guys playing and fighting in the basement but curious creatures unaware of their sexual energy, despite wanting to fuck more than anything else in their lives. So when my son brings his friends around, I’m sure they look at me like I’m another old lady. What they don’t know is how hot the sexy tingle between my legs gets from seeing their strong arms and shoulders.

It doesn’t hurt that my son’s a college swimmer, so there’s never a shortage of fit young…

Following a massive security fuckup early in my cheating life, I started researching my book, How to Cheat: Field Notes from an Adulteress.

I had no idea what I was doing other than knowing my goal was to have sex. Having sex is easy for a woman, so it wasn’t just sex, but the right type of sex with the right person. Even though I was desperate and had gone nine years without sex, I knew, as all women do, having sex with the first person I saw would be a mistake.

I like to spin this tale to say…

What makes illicit sex the best isn’t so much what you do but why you do it. Take Eve. We’re told Eve ate forbidden fruit she got from a snake. But, stepping back, you see the fruit was a metaphor for Eve’s sexuality and that there was no snake, but instead a smooth man with a dangerous smile.

When Eve and her new friend took that first long, slow, succulent bite of the fruit, her sexuality was unlocked. The forbidden knowledge was Eve’s understanding of her sexual power. A power the patriarchy sought to control and still does. …